25 THINGS YOU CAN DO IF YOU’RE FEELING BLUE
Here are a list of some things I do when I’m not feeling my ‘best’ or when I’m unable to think clearly.
Note, I’m not a professional, just a busy momma!
Motherhood has thrown me all kinds of curveballs. About 5 or so months into my first pregnancy, I found out my first was terminally ill. If we were lucky, she’d make it to term. But the chances of her making it to her first birthday were only about 1%. Emotions ran high during my first pregnancy & between grief & hormones, I was a hot mess all throughout her first birthday. Being without her on her first birthday was probably my lowest low & possibly one of the worst time of my entire life. I probably should also mention she lived about 3 weeks & then passed away in her daddy’s arms. Sigh.
Remembering this helps with perspective in my day to day highs & lows. I’m extremely grateful for the wonderful life I’ve been given but not naive to the hardships we all sometimes face.
Having ‘healthy’ babes has been an absolute blessing & expecting the unexpected, even with healthy babes, has been the common theme. For example, I thought I’d stop working when I had kids, but I worked & went to school full time with my first two. It was hard, yet so rewarding for the beliefs I had about myself prior to that season of my life. I thought I’d have natural births (like no medicine), ha!! I had an epidural twice & missed it my 3rd time around, ouch! Another example of this is how I’d thought it’d get easier. My son was an easy baby & then decided somewhere between terrific twos & threes that he wanted to do everything himself. Like pour his own milk & tie his own shoes. Then four happened & he decided that some days he couldn’t even walk on his own two legs. Insert mom shrugging her shoulders emoji here.
I never had actually ‘dealt’ with the loss of my first properly. I went from one job to another, workaholicing my way through the pain. I had four kids in SIX years & at one point had three kids, three & under. There was no time to feel pain. I was busy in the mundane moving from one task to another. I read ‘Present Over Perfect’ & it was like a blueprint of the way I’d been living. I cried a few good times while listening to it. It helped me understand why I had been making all of my life choices & how in turn, I was choosing to opt out of my feelings. Why I was suffering from SEVERE vertigo, why working felt so good & being at her gravesite felt like self-inflicted torture.
So here I am, still curious about why things will never be perfect, why some days I feel like Wonderwoman & others like Pee Wee Herman. And why sometimes, even in the midst of all of my blessings, I still can feel blue.
I think the short answer is that I will always need self-care or soul-care. It’s not something I spend a lot of money on, in fact, the list I’m sharing is mostly things you can do for free.
The longer answer of why life can’t ever feel ‘perfect’ I think can be found in Genesis when Eve ate the apple. I think it’s my genetic need to be relying on Him even in the mundane.
Being aware of this helps me to remember to pray, to worship & to read. I’m not an expert on self-care, Christianity, parenting or anything else for that matter. Just an expert on needing faith, needing grace, needing grit & sometimes needing some chocolate once in a while, ha!
With all of this being said, taking better care of my body, can be the answer to a more clear mind. Once I have a more clear mind I can become more aware of why I feel ‘off’ & I can start to plan & execute better. And sometimes, the only thing standing between me & a good mood is a big glass of water, a healthy meal & some extra sleep.
Here’s a list of 25 things you can do when you’re feeling blue & today, I’ll pick a few:
Drink more water.
Eat a healthy meal.
Try to take a 15 minute break & do nothing. Maybe even take a more extended break from social media.
Go to bed early tonight.
Wake up early tomorrow morning.
Do a brain dump in a notebook.
Write a journal entry.
Read a devotion.
Say a gratitude prayer. Or simply pray.
Write 5 things you’re grateful for in a gratitude journal.
Pick up a good book & read a few pages.
Listen to a book on Audible.
Listen to an inspirational podcast.
Write down 5 goals.
Brainstorm what it would look like to accomplish those goals.
Plan a family vacay, even if it’s local & inexpensive.
Call, text, or write a letter to a friend and/or family member & let them know how much you appreciate them!
Take a warm bath or shower.
Take a brisk walk.
Buy the person, in line behind you, a coffee.
Pick an organization near & dear to your heart & donate.
Eat some chocolate.
Turn on worship music & dance with your babes. Babes are sleeping? Dance by yourself!
Get some workout clothes on & try to workout.
Ask for help.
Becoming a blogger was an answer to prayer for me. It’s been so rewarding in a sense that it’s kind of like an online journal.
I talk more about what I’ve learned from blogging & how to become a blogger here.
I also share 5 ways I make money, all while working from home, in this blog post.
I give some of my wanna be best ‘busy momma health tips’ in this blog post.
You can find all of my self-care posts here!
Allowing myself to accept grace on the long days is what helps me push through. 2 Corinthians 12:9 I hope that you’ll find this list simple enough & helpful enough to have a more positive outlook on life! I plan to do 3-4 of them today. I know these seem obvious but sometimes it’s nice to have a list of options when I don’t have any more energy to think properly.
I know life can sometimes feel like too heavy a burden to bare, finding a tribe that can understand is also really helpful! I’m learning to be unapologetic about caring for myself. It’s helped me be in pursuit of a more purpose driven life. So grace y’all!
With grace & coffee,
Here we are at the farm. Sometimes getting out to the park or to see animals helps us all feel better.
I share some simple kid-friendly activities in this post.
My babe loves water play!
Looking at the animals is therapy for all of us.